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St.
Teresaâs
emergency
room
was
our
second
of
the
day.
The
firstâwhich
I
wonât
name
here,
but
other
Wichitans
can
probably
guessâsent
us
home
with
a
diagnosis
of
âmuscle
cramps,â
and
a
recommendation
that
we
âgive
muscle
relaxants
a
couple
of
days
to
workâ.
If
we
had
followed
that
advice,
my
partner
would
almost
definitively
have
lost
a
leg,
and
very
probably
the
continued
use
of
their
kidneys.
I
share
that
mainly
by
way
of
context,
so
youâll
understand
our
frame
of
mind
as
their
stay
there
beganâweâve
both
had
ER
visits
that
we
knew
were
probably
nothing,
but
where
we
went,
anyway,
because
a
PCP
said
it
was
better
to
be
safe.
This
was
not
one
of
those.
My
partner
was
in
more
pain
than
Iâd
ever
seen
them
inâand
theyâve
had
untreated
endometriosis,
so
thatâs
saying
something.
We
had
no
idea
what
was
wrongâthey
hadnât
been
sick;
they
hadnât
been
hurt;
they
were
just
in
screaming
pain,
for
no
good
reason,
at
all.
And
the
first
hospitalâŚ
didnât
believe
them.
St.
Teresaâs
level
of
responsiveness
and
engagement
was
the
diametric
opposite.
Everyone,
beginning
with
the
guy
who
checked
us
in,
and
all
the
way
down
the
line
of
medical,
administrative,
and
custodial
staff,
was
wonderful
to
us.
They
took
my
partnerâs
pain
and
pain
management
seriously;
they
took
the
time
to
carry
out
detailed
assessment,
imaging,
and
labs;
they
kept
us
informed
at
all
times
about
what
they
were
doing,
what
the
diagnostic
and
treatment
possibilities
were,
and
what
to
expect,
as
they
learned
more
about
what
was
going
on.
Everyone
checked
in,
everyone
wanted
to
know
how
they
could
help,
care
was
timely
and
responsive.
The
emergency
surgical
team
that
was
âarriving
in
the
next
hourâ
wheeled
my
partner
back
to
anesthesiology,
about
45
minutes
later.
Nursing
staff
reliably
showed
up
to
address
pain
management,
or
to
help
with
hydration
or
mobility,
exactly
when
we
needed
them
to.
They
arranged
to
have
a
walker
delivered
to
my
partnerâs
room,
before
we
checked
out.
There
was
never
a
moment,
once
we
arrived,
that
I
felt
at
sea,
left
hanging,
or
like
I
didnât
know
what
to
expect
next,
and
who
to
ask
if
I
was
worried
or
confused
about
something.
It
wonât
matter
for
every
patient,
but
it
is
also
worth
noting
that
weâre
a
same-gender
couple,
and
both
of
us
are
trans.
Wichita
is
a
difficult
place
for
us
to
access
even
minimally
adequate
care,
from
a
doctor
whoâs
not
actively
antagonisticâweâve
both
had
an
array
of
awful
experiences,
as
patients
and
with
other
trans
family
and
friends,
in
both
of
Wichitaâs
main
hospital
systems.
Our
experience
at
St.
Teresaâs
wasnât
just
adequate;
it
was
almost
shockingly
good.
No
one
got
a
funny
look
on
their
faces,
when
we
confirmed
we
were
in
a
relationship.
No
one
asked
medically
irrelevant
questions
about
transition
status.
When
body-specific
needs
came
up,
the
care
providers
in
the
room
were
kind,
responsive,
and
professionalâand
*normal*.
Sometimes,
we
get
nice
doctors,
and
sometimes,
we
get
mean
doctors,
but
we
almost
never
get
doctors
who
arenât
being
*freaking
weird*
at
us.
Nobody
at
St.
Teresaâs
was
weird
at
us.
They
were
courteous;
concerned
with
both
of
our
comfort;
checked
in
about
name
use,
after
my
partner
disclosed
they
were
trans;
followed
our
lead
about
pronouns.
And
everyone
was
so
deliberate
about
privacy
and
dignity,
in
their
approach
to
my
partnerâs
bodyâwhich
is
saying
something,
in
a
context
where
youâre
stuck
in
a
hospital
gown,
wearing
a
heart
monitor,
and
need
help
to
drink
water
or
go
to
the
bathroom.
We
just
got
to
have
a
regular
medical
experience
like
regular
people
have,
and
it
was
such
a
damn
relief.
The
only
downsideâwhich
I
post
mainly
so
that
yâall
wonât
think
Iâm
just
making
the
rest
of
this
upâwas
the
cafeteria
food.
That
was
dismal,
even
as
hospitals
run.
If
youâre
not
the
patientâŚ
stick
to
soft
drinks
and
manufacturer-packed
snacks,
and
have
a
friend
bring
you
some
fast
food.
But
St.
Teresaâs
is
the
only
ER
in
Wichita,
now,
as
far
as
either
of
us
is
concerned;
and
far
and
away
our
best
experience
in
any
hospital
setting,
whatsoever.
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